You’ve got to be kidding me!? This was my answer?
My husband left that morning in meltdown mode. The pressure of starting a new school was becoming unbearable. The kids were a wreck. My house was beyond a disaster, and I was at my breaking point.
I had fallen to my knees in despair and had pleaded for help.
My answer? Call my friend and tell her what was going on.
Seriously!? What a terrible idea, right? Total vulnerability. Complete humiliation. How could this help? The last thing I needed was to feel judged!
I made that call solely out of obedience to God.
But what followed was miraculous. She listened…and then she took control of the situation. She said, “Okay. This is what we’re going to do. We’re going to start a special fast for your husband. And then I’ll be to your place in 30 minutes. We’re going to get the house cleaned.”
In that moment peace returned, and I felt hope.
She Really Meant It
She was as good as her word. She came up, and she
took care of my biggest dreads: the cupboard underneath the kitchen sink and the kids’ bathroom. They were disgusting. And she simply rolled up her sleeves and took care of it.
And how did she respond to everything?
My tears? My husband’s worries? The kids’ gross bathroom and an even more disgusting cupboard? Zero judgment. Just love.
A Defining Moment
This one event was a turning point in my life. Her kindness, service, and non-judgmental love for me has changed me forever. I have looked back on this experience countless times and learned from it again and again.
As we go through this journey called life, we are really all in the same boat. We each have weaknesses, challenges, and specific things that God needs us to do. And it’s not always easy. But, I will say, that on that one dark morning so many years ago, the darkness was chased away with the light of one dear friend who was willing to walk with me. If only for a couple of hours, I was not alone.
This is who I want to be as well. There’s no need or room for judgment or comparison in this life. Our journeys may look different. We may be married or single, male or female, young or old, gay or straight, fat or thin, educated or ignorant, liberal or conservative, religious or not. It just doesn’t matter.
What matters is simply that we are there for each other. That we help make this life a little easier for each other. That we don’t have to walk this path alone.
And really…in the end…”we’re all just walking each other Home.”