More than two decades ago while handing me a UHEA (Utah Home Education Association) booklet, my husband very matter-of-factly asked me if I would read it.
The heck!? What was he thinking!? We’d always thought homeschoolers were totally backwards, and we had a handful of examples….well….okay….one example to prove it!
Just to appease him, I took the booklet and “accidentally” stashed it in some other papers to look at it…never.
A few weeks passed by, and I was going though some drawers. I bumped into some files from a marriage course I had taken six months prior and started perusing them.
One quote stuck out. I wish I could remember what it was and share it here exactly, but my memory will have to do. It was basically this, “If you don’t show interest in your spouse’s hobbies then you are a selfish, selfish, SELFISH slob, and you deserve to eat raisins in your cookies!!” Bleh!
Okay. I may be exaggerating just a tad. But that was the gist of what I got out of it. And immediately that UHEA booklet popped into my mind. You have got to be kidding!
To calm my fear of becoming a “selfish, selfish, SELFISH slob,” I sat down and read the booklet all the way through. I figured I would just breeze through it, set it aside, and be able to tell my sweetheart what a tremendously supportive wife I was and call it good.
That’s not what happened.
I was sucked in to all the psychology about how a child can emotionally handle being with as many other people socially as their age. So a two year old could handle two friends. A three year old could deal with three, and so on. Well…this hit me right over the head because my three year old, who was happy and easy-going at home, was a downright wreck at our library story time. Hmmm. I did not want to research this, but my search for Truth has always just kinda eclipsed my own will.
I read every book at the Orem Library that had anything to do with homeschooling. Until they began to repeat themselves with the same concepts I had already read.
I wasn’t very happy with my husband for handing me that stinkin’ booklet to begin with, but that’s where my homeschooling career began.
I will never tell you that it’s been easy to homeschool seven children, but I will say that the rewards have been unbelievably worth it. Our philosophy has been primarily our own, but it has been influenced by Maria Montessori, Thomas Armstrong, Oliver DeMille, John Holt, John Taylor Gatto, and others.
Maybe our family has become someone else’s “proof” that “homeschoolers are totally backward,” but it doesn’t worry me. I believe any child, public, private, or homeschooled, will be as socially adjusted as their parents. So if my kids are totally backward…no doubt it would be their dad’s fault.